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doyoucondemnyourselfforthingswhichyoudid--orfailedtodo--inthepast?everyonedoesthisatsomepoint.however,ifyouwanttoleadasuessfulandproductivelife,itisimperativethatyoureleasethepastandnotblameyourselfforeventswhichhavealreadytranspiredandwhichcannotbechanged.
thesuessfulpersontakesthisapproach:learnfrompastmistakesandmakeadjustmentsinfuturebehavior.thestrategyofberatingyourselfforpastconductsolvesnothingandonlyservestoloweryourself-esteem.youcreateaviciouscyclewherenegativeexperiencesandnegativefeelingsarereinforced,whichleadstomorenegativeoutesandmorenegativefeelings.ifyouinsistondwellinginthepast,isuggestthatyoufocusonyourpastsuesses.visualizingandthinkingaboutpastsuessesisanexcellentwaytobuildconfidenceandself-esteem.whatyouthinkaboutiswhatyoubee.therefore,whenyouconcentrateonyoursuesses,youhelptocreatefuturesuesses.whenyoufindyourselfstartingtodwellonpastnegativeexperiences,immediatelyhaltandremindyourself:"thereisnothingicandonowwhichwillchangewhathappened.ilearnedavaluablelessonandwillactinamoreconstructivemannernexttime."regardlessofwhatyouhavedone--orfailedtodo--theonlysaneapproachistoaeptitandmoveforward.
thisisfaithatfaithradioonline-simplytorelax.thesuessfulindividualdoesnotwastepreciousmentalenergydwellingonpasteventswhichcannotbechanged.instead,heorsheusespastmistakesaslearningexperiencesandspringboardstofuturesuesses.